Getting your kids to do chores can be a real pain in the neck. They seem to hate them even more than you do. No matter what you try, they procrastinate, walk away, and then still make you seem neutral as if you were the meanest parent in the world. Are there ways to get your kids to do chores though? If so, how can you help them do them without screaming at them?
Getting them to do chores doesn’t have to be a battle of wills. Yes, frustration will reign among kids as they resist doing chores, but you can help them overcome their resistances. You can do that by showing them how they can accomplish the chores. If you ask them to clean up the mess they make in the kitchen and they start blaming you then you’ll have to set up some sort of communication beforehand to see if they would really like to do it rather than expressing their frustration at you for asking them. Without having the agreement set up by both parties, there will be little to no motivation to actually do it. All you need to do then is make the chores clearly colored ones that they can understand.
You should also give your kids a certain amount of leeway. Allow them to get up and down the stairs and to make their own beds, but you should also make it clear that if they get up and decide to look out the window and stare out the window on their way to the chores desk, they need to get back to what they were doing (chores still need to get done as scheduled) before they can go back to what they were doing. Doing this will communicate to your children that if they do something bad they need to get back to what they were doing before they can even go back upstairs. If there are simple reasons behind the set boundaries, then they won’t get away with breaking one.
The hardest part about accomplishing the chores is getting your kids to follow through on their end. This takes discipline, but each time you make a goal and strive to achieve it, you will help pull your kids to the same expectation. At first you might have to guide them to adhere to the goals with the same things you’d want them to do. That, however, is the point of guidance – to help them understand the regimen so they can conform in the future to the expectations.
If they fight against the goals, then show them the importance of getting it done and give them a shot at earning the reward. After a while they’ll learn that when you say yes, you mean it, and when you say no, you mean it. When you never say no, they’ll learn that you don’t mean what you say – at least not when doing chores.
Doing chores can be hard for kids. They get angry if they have to do too much or don’t know where to start. However, it can be a way for them to learn how to become efficient and efficient. Show them how valuable their work is and it will be easier to motivate them to do their chores. Now they can do it, but it will be just a lot easier.