This is the question that is constantly being asked by many parents. As our children grow, we always want them to have good character and moral values. These are some of the things that are very important for them to emulate. Good communication is very important in building relationships between parent and their kids as they grow older. Teenagers in particular are at a very delicate stage in their lives. Puberty is likely the first thing you think of regarding this, but a teenager can just as significantly be affected by other happenings in their life, such as their parents working through relationship issues.
So how do you talk to your teenagers? Or above all, how do you talk to your children at all? I have also asked this question, and the answers are split among parenting books and other resources. There are some who believe that you talk to your child when he talks to you. Therefore, you can talk to your child, by simply listening to what he has to say. There are enough who believe that you should do this, by chatting with your child. You can just react to his sudden or repetitive speech and this will help your child to establish so much trust and confidence in you. With this, he will recognize that he can trust you to listen to him, instead of simply reacting.
Punishment and rewards are very important for school grades, behavior and other things similar to this. By talking to your teenager encourage him to improve his qualities or potential. These are some good communication skills that you and your teenager need to build, to strengthen his self-esteem and confidence. This is one way of developing good communication with your child.
According to some people who believe that a parent should talk to their child and talk with him in his language then there are some groups of parents that advise talking with them with just any words that you might have in mind. The parents who don’t like to talk to their teenager, tell him that his language should be simple and hence he won’t understand him. Some people believe that a person should be simple in their communication skills.
On the other side of the spectrum some people who believe in describing your opinion to your child, advise asking them why they are wrong, not to be very manly and so on. Many parents feel that by doing this they are making their teenager feel that they are smarter than them. There is also another group, who says that by describing your opinion and also giving the reasons behind your opinion you are framing a conversation, that you are giving the right direction to your teenager. On the other hand, it is also said that, if you don’t explain any point to your teenagers, they will not care and they will develop their own and not listen to your opinion.
Of course there are still more groups of people who believe in what I stated. However, if you are not sure about these and you believe that I said something which doesn’t say it so please check it out with some research materials, which you can find on the Internet.